It can take some time for children to get back to school after school holidays. This is especially difficult for children with anxiety or those starting a new school.
It is normal for children to worry about having to adjust to a new school and whether they will have friends to play with and if they will like their teacher. They will also be missing their old friends. There are several things parents can do to help their child make this transition. It can take time for children to settle in their new environment, however, some simple tips can help get them off to a great start.
- Have open discussions about your child’s feelings and thoughts about the new school. Be prepared to answer any questions they may have as honestly as possible. It may be enough to validate their feelings of apprehension, but this is a great opportunity to help your child express feelings and problem solve potential issues, by helping them to come up with solutions.
- Validate, validate and validate. Avoid the temptation to reassure. Listen and verbally acknowledge their feelings. Example “It must feel really scary to start at new school when you don’t know anyone.”
- If possible, visit the school and meet the new teacher before the start of the term. Walk around the school to help your child get an idea of the school layout, facilities and playground.
- Start getting back to a structured routine at least a week or two before school starts. Make mealtime and sleep routines a priority. Getting sufficient sleep is essential to help children get ready for learning and into the school routine.
- Connect your child with other children who may be going to the same school. You may be able to find families via social media or through friends and neighbours.
- Talk to your child about what they can look forward to at the new school. You will also need to let know about any changes or differences e.g. homework, school uniform, taking the bus etc.
- Discuss how the initial and subsequent drop offs will take. Children like to know what to expect particularly in new situations. Example, “I will drive you to school in the morning. I will walk you to your class and leave you with your teacher. Your Dad will be there to pick you up after school”. As much as possible, try to stick to the plan.
New school jitters can be reduced by preparing your child, listening to their concerns and finding solutions together.